I don’t know who I am writing this for today. Maybe I am just writing it for myself.
My sweet mom has no hair now. Chemo took that from her. Would she want everyone to know that? Well…she probably would not. However, I do know that she would want everyone to know that it’s who you are inside that matters, not the hair on your head. I was really anxious about my mom losing her hair. I was worried how she would handle it. I was worried how I would handle it. Mom just faced the reality like a trooper and just accepted that she had no hair…period. I struggled internally a little more over the reality, but I never broke down over it.
A little backstory: my mom was very particular about making sure her hair looked presentable. To this day, I still hear her voice in my head every morning when I get ready to not forget to look at the back of my hair. She was a stickler for making sure it looked good all around. My mom is not vain; she just always wanted to look her best.
What I have realized these past few weeks of looking at my mom with her cute hats on with no hair underneath, she is EXACTLY the same person she has always been. Her hair did not and does not define her. As society continually sends out images of photoshopped images or filters on social media making people look different than they really look, please remember it is who you are on the inside that truly matters. Our focus should be on working on who we are and how we treat others. Hair or any other outward appearance has nothing to do with those two things.
Do I want my mom to have hair? Yes, selfishly I do. I want her to have hair, so I am not constantly reminded that she is fighting for her life. I want her to have hair so people won’t stare at her in the store. However, I have always known it is who we are on the inside that matters. I just was given that sweet reminder as I look at my courageous mom and see that hair or no hair, she is still the same amazing mom I have always had.
Thank you for stopping by!
WEAR THE PERFUME!
Linda
